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Wednesday, August 01, 2007
Forgiveness
The reason that pushed me to write about it, is its great importance, unfortunately many of us ignore, so our world became full of anger, conflicts, wars and fighting. People are killing and fighting each others, losing their tempers easily and sometimes because of small trivial situations as if we’re waiting for someone to do wrong us so we can own something against him/her. Every one is blaming other parties and neglecting the Virtue of FORGIVENESS.
Forgiveness is an attribute has received due attention in Islam and has been extensively discussed in the holy Qura’n and Hadith.
The keys to its doors aren’t difficult to find. Some may own one or more of these keys but don’t have the courage to go and open the doors. Others might have no idea about these keys and think that ignorance is the easiest way.
Thus it’s important for us to re-inculcate the value of forgiveness in our lives. We should think and ponder first, do we really know what forgiveness is? What’s the importance of forgiveness? And how to inculcate the value of it in our lives?
Forgiveness is the mental, emotional and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel anger, resentment or indignation against another person for a perceived offence, difference or mistake. Forgiveness is the cancellation of the conditions in the mind that are blocking the full flow of love or life energy independently of the behavior of others. It’s an act of will…Yeah, forgiveness is a sign of strength “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong”~Gandhi.
Actually forgiveness is important for several reasons. if anyone of us desires to be forgiven for his/her offenses and mistakes he/she must learn to forgive others. If one seeks forgiveness from Allah, he should learn to forgive others. If one desires that Allah overlook his weaknesses, he should learn to overlook weaknesses of others.
The keys to its doors aren’t difficult to find. Some may own one or more of these keys but don’t have the courage to go and open the doors. Others might have no idea about these keys and think that ignorance is the easiest way.
Thus it’s important for us to re-inculcate the value of forgiveness in our lives. We should think and ponder first, do we really know what forgiveness is? What’s the importance of forgiveness? And how to inculcate the value of it in our lives?
Forgiveness is the mental, emotional and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel anger, resentment or indignation against another person for a perceived offence, difference or mistake. Forgiveness is the cancellation of the conditions in the mind that are blocking the full flow of love or life energy independently of the behavior of others. It’s an act of will…Yeah, forgiveness is a sign of strength “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong”~Gandhi.
Actually forgiveness is important for several reasons. if anyone of us desires to be forgiven for his/her offenses and mistakes he/she must learn to forgive others. If one seeks forgiveness from Allah, he should learn to forgive others. If one desires that Allah overlook his weaknesses, he should learn to overlook weaknesses of others.
It has been said that “forgiveness offers the possibility of two types of peace: Peace of mind; the potential healing of old emotional wounds and Peace with others; the possibility of new, more gratifying relationships in the future.”... About offering peace, I’ve heard an awesome simile (and in my opinion is so true) describing the person who didn’t forgive the one who had wronged him/her like a person who takes a spoon of poison everyday and wishes that the other person(who wronged him)dies. And here’s another quote (in my opinion is true too) it says "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.”
Obviously there’re 2 aspects of forgiveness: Allah’s forgiveness and human forgiveness.
Allah’s forgiveness as Allah is the most forgiving and is the original source of all forgiveness : Hadith Qudsi: Allah the Almighty, has said: O Son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O Son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O Son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins as great as the earth, and were you then to face Me ascribing no partners to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it.
Human forgiveness: You can find that whenever possible, the Qura’n makes it clear that it’s better to forgive another than to attack another. The Qura’n describes the believers( Muslims) as those who “They avoid gross sins and vice and when angered they forgive.” (al- shura 42:37)
Obviously there’re 2 aspects of forgiveness: Allah’s forgiveness and human forgiveness.
Allah’s forgiveness as Allah is the most forgiving and is the original source of all forgiveness : Hadith Qudsi: Allah the Almighty, has said: O Son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O Son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O Son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins as great as the earth, and were you then to face Me ascribing no partners to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it.
Human forgiveness: You can find that whenever possible, the Qura’n makes it clear that it’s better to forgive another than to attack another. The Qura’n describes the believers( Muslims) as those who “They avoid gross sins and vice and when angered they forgive.” (al- shura 42:37)
To forgive those people who did hurt you, who wronged you, who cheated on you.
To forgive a friend , to forgive a colleague To forgive your siblings, To forgive your relatives: your aunt, uncle your cousins who have broken ties with you.
Set yourself free, Confront your emotional pain, shock, anger and grief.
To forgive a friend , to forgive a colleague To forgive your siblings, To forgive your relatives: your aunt, uncle your cousins who have broken ties with you.
Set yourself free, Confront your emotional pain, shock, anger and grief.
Know that to continue to dwell on the anger and resentment involved in the hurt will literally destroy your physical health, and cause you great suffering.
Know that forgiveness doesn’t condone or approve or forget the harmful acts; forgiveness doesn’t allow yourself to be abused. We forgive the doer not the doing.
Be aware that being forgiving is a courageous act on your part. It has nothing to do with whether the other person can admit they are wrong.
Be aware that being forgiving is a courageous act on your part. It has nothing to do with whether the other person can admit they are wrong.
Recognize that You are forgiving to gain Allah’s forgiveness and to liberate yourself no matter what the other person decides to do.
Remember that “Forgiveness is a powerful yet challenging tool that will support and honor you, even in the most extreme circumstances.
Forgive
Remember that “Forgiveness is a powerful yet challenging tool that will support and honor you, even in the most extreme circumstances.
Forgive
Labels: Forgiveness and Peace, How to forgive, Islam, Liberate yourself, Our lives, Virtues of forgiveness, Who's the strong
posted by Salma at 5:15 PM
15 Comments:
the first comment hehehe :)
Lovely post. We at time do forget what forgiveness is and how to forgive. As you mentioned Gandhi saying that only the strong forgive and that holds true for another great man Mandela who forgave his persecutors. Its amazing that even though they are non muslim we can still learn so much from them about something that should come natural to us.
K-man:
Lol..You're the first :) i wanted to be the first to comment there ba' it's just my luck hehehe.
Mandela is another great example indeed and yeah although they aren't muslims we can learn from them.
But lets not forget that the greater is Prophet Mohamed(Pbuh) sent to mankind to teach them good moral conduct and who constantly spoke against being angry. and said "The one who is strong is the one who can control himself at the time of anger.” and ceasing anger leads to forgiveness ;)
So pleased reading your comment k :) Thanks so much
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
اتمنى ان التعليق باللغة العربية يكون مقبول
احب اسجل اعجابي الشديد بالموضوع
فعلا الناس في اشد الحاجة لممارسة التسامح
هايفرق كتير جدا
وتدعيمك للموضوع دينيا
يجعل المرء يتوقف ويهتم
ويدرك انك لا تفرضي رأي شخصي وانما
انت تحركي صفة اسلامية
راكدة داخل النفوس
تغلبت عليها مشاعر الغضب
وكما قلتي اصبحنا وكأننا نتصيد الاخطاء كل منا للآخر
لنلقي على الآخرين باللوم
استفاضتك في الموضوع رائعة
لن أنكر ان بعض المصطلحات والكلمات توقفت عندها لا اعرف معانيها
ولكن سياق الجملة كان ينقذني
وهذه المرة الاولى التي اقرا فيها موضوع كتب باللغة الانجليزية
لأن عنوانه شدني كثيرا
فعلا ناس كتير تملك امكانية انها تسامح وتغفر
لكنهم يجبنوا او يبخلوا
واخرين لا يعرفون كيفية ان يغفروا فيتجاهلوا ويجدوا ان هذا اسهل
الموضوع كله جميل جدا
لكن عجبني جدا
ان الانسان اذا صُفح عنه تكون لديه القدرة ويتعلم كيف يصفح عن الآخرين
واتوضيحك للعلاقة بين طلب المغفرة من الله سبحانه وتعالى
وبين الاستعداد لمنحها
ومراعاة الاخرين وضعفهم
الموضوع رائع جدا
كمان انت كتباه باسلوب سهل ورائع
جزاك الله كل خير
اكيد لو اجادتي للغة افضل كنت علقت احسن
لكن انا مقدمة الموضوع وعنوانه جذبوني فاجتهدت في قراءته
فاعذريني ان لم اكن قد وفيتك حقك
لاني أشعر انك اجتهدتي
واريد ايضا ان ابدي اعجابي الشديد
بتصميم مدونتك
كانها كتاب من الكتب القديمة
ذات اللون والرائحة المميزة
انا اعشق تلك الكتب
سعيدة جدا اني دخلت مدونتك
ما علينا:
و عليكم السلام و رحمة الله و بركاته. الحقيقه لا أدري كيف أعبر لك عن سعادتي البااالغه بقراءة تعليقك و اعجابك بالموضوع و ثنائك لي (مع انه كتير عليه) و اصرارك لقراءة الموضوع و فهمه برغم الصعوبات و ده ينم عن شخصيه مثابره ذات عزيمه و اصرار أنا بحييكي للغايه.
فعلا لو كل واحد فينا رجع لكتاب الله و سنة نبيه هيجد فيهما كل مقومات النجاح و أكيد باتبعها هينصلح حال بلدنا. أشكرك جزيييل الشكر على قرائتك للموضوع و تعليقك الأكثر من رائع,جزاك الله خيرا وأود أن أقول أنك ما شاءالله في اللغه و كلنا بتقع منا كلمات يأما بنحاول نفهما من السياق أو بنبحث عن معناها و بكده بنزود رصيدنا من الكلمات. بجد انت وفيتي حقي و زياده و أرجوا أن تظل كتاباتي محط اهتمامك و أن تسعديني بابداء ارائك دائما.
اولا ابدى اعجابى بالفكرة الرائعة هذه المرة وكهدى بك دائما متميزة
ثانيا
اقول ان التسامح هو الضمانة الوحيدة لحياة آمنة لكل البشرية وبدون التسامح ينعدم الامن والسلامويكفينا كمسلمين انر التسامح من موجبات مغفرة الرب للذنوب
اجبنى جدا مثل السم ولجده معبرا الى درجة بعيدة
ملحوظة :نفسى اكتب قد ما ما علينا بتكتب لكن مش باقدر
ربنا يكرمها ويكرمك يا سلمى ويفتح عليك كمان وكمان
ونصيحة من اخ لو تحاولى تنشرى مدونتك بين المدونين الاجانب وغير المسلمين ليعم النفع وجزاك الله خيرا
السلام عليكم
مش عارف اقولك ايه
كل موضوعاتك مميزة سوء كان بالعربى او الانجليزى
جزاك الله خيرا عن كل كلمة قولتيها
ربنا يجعلها فىميزان حسناتك
اعتقد ان الناس افتقدت التسامح لانها بعدت عن الدين
ومفتقدة معانى التسامح
وفاقد الشئ لا يعطيه
ربنا يكرمك عشان فكرتينا بالحديث القدسى اللى ذكرتيه
اعتقد ان الناس لو فهمت الحديث صح هتقدر تسامح
لان مفيش حد بيغلط ويقصر فى حق حد
زى ما احنا بنقصر فى حق ربنا
the most greatest post i read about forgiveness really good job hope tje next one will be about how to forgive thanx
Pardon me on my late reply to the comments.
أبو سويلم:
سعيده جدااا أن الموضوع عجبك يا أبو سويلم وأتمنى أن كل منا يجعل التسامح ملجأه عند الخصومه و أن يبادر بالقاء السلام بصرف النظر عن مين الصح و مين الغلط و نتذكر قول الرسول(ص) حيث قال "خيركم من يبدأبالسلام" فلم لا نكون خير من من أساء الينا.فالنتذكر من فرقتنا عنهم الخصومه و لنبادر بمسامحتهم
فلنبدأ بالقاء السلام عليهم.
ربنا يكرمك و أشكرك جدا على نصيحتك و أنا فعلا بدأت أسعى في ذلك و نشرت هذا الموضوع في موقع يضم المسلمين الأجانب و أيضا غير المسلمين. جزاك الله خير على تعليقك اللي أسعدني جدا.
دكتور كسلان:
شكرا جدااا يا دكتور ولكن ده كلام كبير عليا أوى جزاك الله كل خير.
كلامك مظبوط ميه في الميه أحنا فعلا افتقدنا معانى ساميه جدا ببعدنا عن دينا. فالنسعى أنا و أنت و كل اللي بيقروا اننا نطبق كل كلمه قلناها و لنبدأبمسامحه كل من أخطأ في حقنا, انشا الله نكلمهم في التليفون نسأل عليهم و بضمنلوكوا أنكوا هتحسوا بشعور رااائع, بسمو داخلي,باحساس ملىء بالقوه و الشجاعه و باحترام كبيييير لذاتك و راحه لا توصف خصوصا لو لم تكن الغلطان.
أشكرك مره أخرى يا دكتور
ahmed a.hamid:
Thank you so much,It's my pleasure you liked it :)
About how to forgive...i wrote about it at the end of the post but maybe i didn't declare it that much
,so if you read it once again and feel you want another post to be more specific, sure i'll do it for you insha'Allah :)
very effective post, i wish we all could forgive its so haard to applay it but we must....
good job salma
عذرا للتحليق خارج السرب
من اجل رفع الظلم عن المظلومين
ادعوكى للمشاركة فى حملة رفع الظلم عن طلاب الاسكندرية المختطفين
التفاصيل بمدونتى
ارجوكى انشريها
ياريت تشاركينا حملة من اجل رفع الظلم عن المظلومين
لو عايزة تعرفى تفاصيل
زورى مدونتى او مدونة اسلام رفاعى
i think it will be better if you write in arabic , you have agood mind and sens so give ppl a chance to read what you write ,
we are arabs and so you are (i think !) so don't use our enemy words to talk to us .
forgive me
with forgiveness we can continue and forget what really hurt us..
very Sensitive words
you delighted me with your post.. as always you do :)
wow!! I didn't expect that u had a blog!! Very nice words indeed!! Keep it up :-)
M.S.R
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